Do women enjoy “porn” as much as men?

The answer is probably NO!
But it’s not quite as simple as that, is it? Let’s start be deciding what is truly Pornographic. My son had a DVD of one of the Saw movies, now I watched about 30 minutes of it and had to ask him to turn it off. I found it absolutely disgusting, the term torture porn has been applied to that series of films and I can see why. How can anyone get any sort of pleasure from watching people having to cut body parts off, even if it is make-believe? (even my son admitted he found it nasty)
So how about a film in which consenting adults do nice things to each other? Like having sex? I’ve watched my fair share of those types of films and I have yet to want to walk away because I found it too disturbing! Yet this kind of material is considered “pornographic”. Ok, I’m simplifying it a bit, there is a world of difference between a film like “last tango in Paris” which was fairly shocking in it’s heyday and the sexually explicit material that is now available at the click of a mouse! But the premise is the same, it’s only the fact that modern material shows penetration, ejaculation and equally intimate stuff that makes it an “adult” movie! As far as I’m concerned I’d prefer it if the legislators banned the movies that were gratuitously violent and relaxed the rules on movies with explicit sex!
But then what about scenes with BDSM? Or Golden Showers? Just because they are not to my personal taste doesn’t make them any less worthy. It’s a tricky question!
Then what about erotic writing? Truth be told I usually get far more turned on from reading the written word, probably because I can let my imagination do the work! Again, I prefer to avoid anything too violent and gratuitous, but I have undoubtedly masturbated to a good sexy book far more often than to a sexy film!
My Phil is a pretty average red blooded guy, he will watch an adult film at the drop of a hat, and if it gets him turned on then it’d be to both our advantage!! Ideally we would watch something together and BOTH get aroused, but there are times when I can quite happily leave him to his film and go and do a bit of paperwork or even a bit of ironing! Which suggests that men enjoy porn more than women if you think about it.
For the record, I prefer ” amateur” material, I would much rather see real people having sex than some silicone enhanced, cellulite-free bimbo with a hairless over endowed stud who can ejaculate coffee cup loads of semen all over the place!

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Oh…these hormones are getting silly!

I started HRT around the first week of last December, as you know, I have found it way WAY better than I was led to believe it was going to be like.
I have already mentioned one odd side effect (the flatulence, which is not directly linked to HRT but to the fact that HRT has made me a bit constipated & the treatment for that is what makes me fart!).
However, I am getting a bit puzzled by what seems to be another side effect…..since Christmas I have been having the most vivid & erotic dreams!! I can only assume that the hormone top-up I am getting is the cause, but hell’s teeth, they are getting more & more……well, rude is the best word I can think of!
Take last night, I dreamed I was lying naked on a flat rock at the bottom of a low cliff, my legs spread wide, masturbating like mad while a crowd of onlookers gathered to watch from the top of the cliff! The more they seemed to shout their encouragement (I could’t make out what they were saying) the more I was goaded to make myself orgasm!
I woke up in such a state of arousal that I would have jumped on Phil were he not due to be somewhere for work much earlier than usual. As it is I was able to finish myself off on record time as I was on the verge of orgasm anyway!
I don’t know how many of you who are reading this are of an age where you may be taking HRT, but if you are, please tell me if you experienced something similar!!

In praise of HRT

I’ve now been on HRT for practically a month & I have to say the effects have been way better than expected! The hot flushes have stopped completely, I hardly have any sleepless nights, sex is just like it was before the menopause really started and I ejaculate like before. My vaginal membranes are no longer over-sensitive & I produce lubrication without much persuasion!
The only downside is that last night I came on and today has been really heavy. But that seems a small price to pay!
Update: My period finished last Thursday, it was a short one just like they used to be in my 20s. AND last night I was behaving like a 20 year old, my libido is off the scale……if this is HRT then EVERY woman should use it. I’m not kidding, I came more times than I could count (the wet patch was BIG!), I orgasmed twice, then again this morning. Phil is wondering if he needs to take Viagra in order to keep up with me!

Biting the bullet

Ok, I’ve had enough trying to be stoic about all this, I’m seriously fed up with the sleepless nights, the hot flushes (even if Phil likes the fact that I sleep naked every night!), the lack of vaginal fluids ect. I am going to see our GP tonight & ask him to put me on HRT.
I work with nurses & midwives & they have all said the same thing: take advantage of what medical science has to offer. With regular check-ups the risk of side effects is controlled. So that’s it. I’m going to give it a try.
By the way, any one who tells you St John’s Wort is a good alternative therapy for sleepless nights is only telling you half the story, it’s a fairly powerful anti-depressant that can seriously affect your ability to respond to sexual stimulation! Since coming off it I have been able to climax much more easily & my ejaculations seem to be getting back to normal!

16:45 uk time.
A quick update for you, I have seen our GP and after a quick examination to check that the soreness I have been experiencing in the membranes of my inner labia & vagina (not due to any yeast or other infection), he has put me on Elleste Duet HRT.
I will keep you updated on my progress…..

tempting fate never pays off!

I knew it! Back in late August I was boasting about how the menopause was not having too big an impact on my sex life (see my very first blog “hello world”) and that I was still able to get aroused & ejaculate, well that was the kiss of death!!
I haven’t had a period since then, but more to the point my vaginal secretions have virtually dried up & I haven’t ejaculated since mid-September, despite still being able to climax, albeit with a lot more effort.
So…..this is it, eh? All downhill from here? I swore I would never go for HRT but I may have to swallow my words. Shit, I’m only 53, I’m not ready to be consigned to the sexual scrapheap. Barely two years ago I was enjoying threesomes. now I’m struggling to get wet enough for penetrative sex! Thank goodness for Sylk vaginal lubrication, that’s all I’ve got to say….

It’s an ill wind…

…that blows some good! I seem to be getting past the peri-menopausal stage & entering the menopause proper.
I have not had a period for ages & I’m getting the dreaded hot flashes. But one unexpected advantage from my husband’s point of view is that I have been spending more time in minimal clothing in the evenings & going to bed naked instead of in my usual nightdress!
Now, if only I felt like nooky all the time…..<a