What’s been happening?

Not alot is the short answer! At least nothing of interest here, unless the few days I spent helping my Mum up in London excites you!
I will be going for my oft postponed tantric massage on Saturday, that’s carved in stone now! Nothing is going to come between me & a bit of “me” time now.
Oh, one thing has just sprung to mind….while I was away I got an email from an oganisation that conducts surveys. About a year ago I took part in research about sexual attitudes and gave them my email address for any follow up surveys. This new survey has a few questions that have made me take stock of my life so far. One question asks how many sexual partners I have had (partners doesn’t have to mean someone I have had intercourse with, it can mean any form of sexual activity) and I have to admit that I am a little shocked by my tally!
I freely admit I was promiscuous as a teenager, but I spent plenty of years in two monogamous relationships until Phil and I decided to try sexual experimentation in 2002 (we stopped in 2008, so there was a 6 year period during which we “swung”) but when I counted my partners, male and female, I discovered that between the age of 12(when I had my first proper sexual experience which consisted of masturbating a lad to a climax and letting him touch me intimately) and the age of 51 (when we last had a third party for sex) I had been touched by or had intercourse with close on 30 individuals! Quite shocking!

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Something to look forward to!

I know I haven’t been posting much lately, but I have been incredibly busy at work AND phase two of our kitchen refurbishment has started, so you will have to forgive me for now!
I do have something to mention though, last November I attended a seminar on baby massage and there I made acquaintance with a therapist from my part of the world. She was attending as a potential giver of massage, whereas I was there as someone who would be referring new mums to a therapist. Unfortunately, she works in a different health trust area, so I would not be directly involved with her, but we decided to keep in touch as I had levels of expertise that she could draw on and she could also provide information that I might find useful.
Anyway, last week I found myself in an area that was quite close to where she had her practice, so I phoned her to see if she was free for a chat. Turns out she was taking the afternoon off for a bit of studying and welcomed the opportunity to take a break, so I popped over to her place for a cup of tea.
I noticed that she was studying Tantric massage techniques and she explained that living & working near to Glastonbury she had a “New Age/hippy” client base and had occasionally been asked if she did tantric massage, so she decided to study it in order to add a string to her bow. To cut a long story short, she was nearing the end of her studies & was soon going to need a couple of volunteers to practice on and if i was interested she would welcome the impartial feedback I could giver her as she only had her husband to work on at this point. Now you can imagine my enthusiasm for this! She did say that she could leave out the ultimate part of the treatment (for those that may not know about tantra, the process can end with what is known as Yoni massage on a woman or Lingam massage on a man, try googling those terms for more info) if I was at all unsure about that aspect. I was more than happy for her to give me the full treatment, so in a couple of weekends time i shall get Phil to drive me down to her practice for what will be my first ever tantric massage. I will report back on how it went!

Our photos

If you go through my past posts, those of you who have read my musings before will notice that the sexually explicit photographs have gone! I’m talking about the ones that showed fellatio or penetration, not the ones that are essentially “naturist” shots. Lord knows that at 53 I no longer get worried about nudity, over the years I suspect that countless people will have seen me naked either on beaches or in spas etc. I don’t even mind that some will have seen my “girly bits”, you try climbing in or out of a hot tub without giving all those present an eyeful!
However, I frequently post stuff here that is not about swinging and I don’t want to deter readers from returning by blatantly posting images they might find offensive.
So what I think I might do is set up a separate blog somewhere with links from these blog pages so that I can post the more controversial stuff for those of you who want to see it. Blogspot seem to be ok with explicit material.
If enough of you post positive comments I’ll go ahead. Let me know what you think.

An unexpected surprise

A few weeks ago I promised one of my regular readers that I would write about my experience of sex with “several” partners at once. So Rose, this is for you!
Those of you who have read my previous blogs will know that I intimated this event back in the autumn.
I had once mentioned to my husband that I had fantasised about having sex with several guys at once. Don’t ask me why! it was just a fantasy of mine. However, unbeknown to me, Phil (my husband) had arranged a surprise for me at this party. We arrived with our friends Will & Angela & as is usual with these events, we were ushered to a communal changing room where we all stripped (in my case down to my suspender belt & stockings, I felt they looked more sexy!! Silly me..) & wrapped towels around ourselves while we wandered around the various rooms. Will & Phil went off & seemed to be deep in conversation. Phil came back alone some ten minutes later to find Angela & me, he beckoned me to follow him so I went off with him with Angela following, he took me into this room that I assumed was hosting some sort of activity he wanted me to see but when I walked through the door I was confronted by Will & two other guys stood around an empty sofa. I thought “ok, now what?” the penny hadn’t dropped at all. Phil led me by the hand & I heard Angela say to me “Phil & Will had this planned as soon as you two accepted the invitation to come”. Even then I didn’t grasp what was meant. “Had what planned?” Then Phil whispered in my ear “your fantasy about having sex with several guys. The four of us are going to give you the time of your life tonight.”
I was speechless, and also a little taken aback! I wasn’t prepared for anything like this. That night was our first ever sex party & I had come with the idea of watching & partaking in a little bit of group sex, not having a gangbang!
I was relieved of my towel & I felt Phil put his arms around my waist from behind & start to kiss my neck, something that always gets me going. My heart was pounding, I was aroused for sure but also a bit apprehensive. I let him put his hand between my thighs & even I was amazed at the level of my arousal. Then Will & one of the other guys started to kiss my nipples & that was it. I was hooked.
To cut a potentially very long story short, I felt I had to take some sort of control of the situation so I got them to sit on the sofa or kneel/lay on the floor as I played with their cocks and one by one, they took me. I know I came a few times at first, all that stimulation was almost overwhelming! I remember at some point in the proceedings looking across at Angela who was avidly watching events unfold. When she saw that I was looking at her she gave me a thumbs up gesture with a big smile on her face!
But, and there had to be a but, it wasn’t what I had imagined it to be. By the time the third guy penetrated me, I was beginning to get a bit sore! Number two admitted that he found wearing a condom desensitised him to the point that he took for ever to come.
Phil was the last person to take me & after only two or three minutes I had to ask him to withdraw as it was getting painful, even with lashings of KY jelly. He brought himself to a climax over my now red raw vulva & that was it, my first and only gangbang. I’ve had threesomes since & they have all been a success, but I don’t think I will ever go for more than 2 partners again!

Our alternative lifestyle

Those of you who have read my other post will know that I have intimated that my husband, Philippe, & I have tried a bit of sexual experimentation. This came about mainly because at the age of 44 & the menopause just starting to come over the horizon, I felt that time was getting a bit short. We have been married for years, but as in all marriages, there sometimes is a plateau where sex is comfortable but not so exciting any more. What I didn’t want to do was go to my grave wishing that I had at least tried a few things. We have a very open relationship, we don’t believe in keeping secrets & having discussed my feelings with Phil, I knew that he had the same thoughts. We just didn’t know quite WHAT we wanted to do! I should also point out that sexually we are very adventurous, we have tried just about everything that a couple could do, including anal sex (not our favourite!), all forms of oral sex, mutual masturbation, a bit of mild bondage (again, not high on our list of favourites), all manner of things that a couple can do together. What we had never tried was incorporating other people in our intimate lives.
We spent some time researching ways of livening up the sex, but the answer came from an unexpected direction. We were having a drink with some close friends of ours one evening & somehow the conversation came round to holidays, what we/they had planned for 2002 & where they/we had been in 2001. During the conversation they confessed that thy had gone on a long weekend break with some other friends we didn’t know to Paris. It transpired that one evening they had all ended up having sex together in the same room! No partner swapping you understand, but they none the less all ended up naked doing what comes naturally with their own partners. And they loved it!!
I have to admit that this sounded very appealing, Phil & I talked about it at length on the way home & the upshot was that we started to look into the possibilities of finding a couple who would entertain the idea.
Things proved harder that we expected but we finally found a really nice couple through MSN groups. They were called Will & Angela, lived near enough to make it possible to visit without having to stay overnight but far enough to ensure we wouldn’t bump into them too close to home!. They were an odd couple in some respects, Angela was in her late 30s making her 6 years younger than me while William was in his late 50s making him some 7 years OLDER than Phil!
We exchanged emails, then photos and finally made arrangements to visit them. I have to confess that I was filled with a mix of eager anticipation as well as trepidation. Here we were, going to visit a couple we had never met in the flesh, probably going to end up naked with them & theoretically have sex while they watched (& presumably be having sex too!). Quite a surreal plan….
Will & Angela greeted us warmly, we had brought along a bottle of red wine & some dips, we all settled down in the lounge & chatted….about all sorts of things, vacations, children (they had none), work. It all added to the surreal atmosphere! Eventually Will steered the conversation around to the reason for our visit & I took the bull by the horns & bluntly asked him how we were going to go about things. He suggested that we all transfer to the patio where we found they had a hot tub. Bliss!! Will, Phil & I got naked but Angela stayed behind in the lounge a while. She eventually joined us & we got nice & relaxed in the warm water, I could have spent the whole evening in there! When we finally got out, Angela handed out towels & we returned to the lounge, where we found out what had delayed her. She had closed the cutains, lit scented candles & scattered cushions around. What followed can only be described as one of the most erotic & intimate experiences I have ever known. Since that evening we have indulged in some pretty adventurous fun, but that very first encounter with Will & Angela was by far the sexiest.
The knowledge that eyes were watching us, the visual impact of being able to watch them, the warmth of the bodies in close proximity all led to a highly charged atmosphere. I know I came quite quickly, so did Philippe! After, we all lay there in a warm, companionable silence. I realised that we had shared something very special, although Will & Angela were experienced swingers, there was something very intimate & private happening between us, we became very close friends from that evening on.
This was only the first of many evenings we spent in the company of Will & Angela (as well as others in due course), our journey down the road to sexual hedonism was just starting.