attitude and comfort zone

This year has been an interesting one from the perspective of how we approach certain things. Take Phil for example, last spring he was diagnosed with Peyronies disease (a build up of plaque in the erectile tissue of the penis which causes painful erections and ejaculations, curving of the penis, sometimes quite alarmingly and in some cases erectile dysfunction). Our family doctor is a woman, so I half expected Phil to say that he would much rather see a male doctor about such an intimate issue. But I was wrong! In fact he stated that he felt more comfortable talking to a woman doctor about this, not to mention undergo the examination!! It’s not that he is homophobic, but he feels that having his most treasured possession handled, even for medical reasons, is best undertaken by a member of the opposite sex. It is a comfort thing.
Me, on the other hand, I would much rather be seen/examined by a member of my own gender! I remember some years ago having to call out the emergency doctor after falling down stairs and landing on my coccyx, fracturing it in two places. That entailed a rather intimate exam, including a “fickle finger of fate” up the back passage! The male doctor who came out was not only young enough to be my son, but was also rather dishy! Not that I was in any state to notice too much at the time……
In May, I had a Tantric massage, including a yoni massage, all done expertly by a female therapist that I felt completely at ease with. I didn’t even feel embarrassed when I climaxed. I’m not so sure that I would have given myself so completely to a male therapist. Again, it is a comfort thing.
That same female therapist saw me and Phil on Monday evening. She taught me how to give a non sexual massage to his lingam (penis), she also showed me how to use the squeeze technique when he felt he was about to ejaculate, as well as teach him deep breathing techniques to help control his urges. It’s just as well he feels more comfortable with members of the opposite sex!! I think he rather enjoyed being fussed by two women like that!


Oops, nearly forgot!

I completely forgot to mention this in my last post, but Phil & I finally got to see the consultant urologist about his Peyronies affliction.
It would appear that there is nothing to be done really, Phil’s condition is relatively mild, yes erections are painful and ejaculation makes the discomfort worse (the muscle contractions “squeeze” the sensitive area) but he assured us that the pain will subside within 12 months and as long as the area of plaque doesn’t get larger, there is no need for surgery as the risks can be far greater than the original ailment!! The curvature in Phil’s case is slight (more like an upturn at the end of his penis) and as it doesn’t cause me any discomfort, the whole thing is best left alone. We asked about the ultrasound therapy, but as there is no hard evidence that it is truly effective, that is no longer offered.
So, we are no further advanced, we will carry on with the Vitamin E treatment for now and we will wait to see how things go.

Bad Karma?

No sooner have I come through the period of sadness and despondency brought about by the tragic loss that affected a good friend, Phil goes and gets an affliction called Peyronie’s Disease. Not sure why it’s classed as a disease, but for those of you that don’t know what it is, the shaft of the penis develops a hard lump (plaque) usually at the site of an old injury, this lump is the size of a thumb nail in Phil’s case, about two thirds up the length of the shaft and becomes more obvious as the penis gets erect. In severe cases the penis becomes bent, usually upwards, but this has not happened to Phil.
There is no truly effective treatment for this, surgery can work in extreme cases, but otherwise, there is a study going on that suggests using ultrasound, much like it is used to disperse kidney stones.
Our sexlife shouldn’t be too badly affected apparently, though he does say the it is a bit tender when he gets an erection, so we will have to be a bit careful!!!!
I’m a bit puzzled by the “old injury” bit, I know we can be a bit enthusiastic when it comes to lovemaking, but not THAT boystrous!Maybe it happened during one of our swinging sessions…who knows?!
In case you are wondering, I found it while giving him a Father’s day treat! An unexpected consequence of a “lingam” massage!